Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Week 6

African American Women's Spiritual Beliefs
Going back to slavery, when slaves were brought here everything had been stripped from them even their identity. The only thing they had left to call their own was the spirituality and religious beliefs which became the stepping stone to try to raise above what the oppressor had began to tear apart. As you see in many church congregations the majority are women who attend and worship trying to find that control of their lives that was taken from them from slavery until the present.
The choice to be gay
This article was very interesting it depicts what the conservative christian thinks and feels about society and its people that do no conform to their thinking and way of life. I feel the author response was to the point and gave her something to think about. The mother at one point gave her son credit for being a good educated young man, but when it came to something that was out of her control she downed him to being naive and abnormal. Most will misused the bible to down grade others to justify their way of life and way of how someone is supposed to live life according the "christian". To acknowledge and accept that her son is gay, for her would mean she failed as a mother and rather to accept she had not failed as a mother and or to accept the fact her son was born this way, she chooses to find fault in others to justify her embarrassment and disagreement of her son's life style. The author gave her something to think about, cherish the gift from god and use other commandments of the bible to see that she is not perfect and that god accepts all his children as they are.
Found: 85,000 Black Gay Households
African American gays have so much against them, besides being gay, their African American, stereotyped as not being worthy and stereotyped as being worthless. Though many steps are being made to bring the gay community on the same level as heterosexuals but some of those steps are not helping many African American gay couples, because they are not at the economy level of many others and so any changes will effect them almost double it would the white gay community.Separating the African American community is the same movement in separating the African American family the breaking of the family union at any means. 
Understanding the Marginalization of Gay and Gender Non-Conforming Black Male Students
In this article to me is saying okay we will deal with one thing or other but not both. Simply not understanding when you oppressed one group you oppressed other forms of groups as well. Having social support groups with majority white students and once again leaving out the already oppressed group of African American gay community. Many not willing to stand up for the students and it may be that they are not in agreement with the gay community, so allowing the abuse and bullying to continue in schools and turning around as though the gay students ask for what they are receiving the physical and mental abuse from others students and some of the staff members at the school direct and or indirectly condoning the abuse. Also the oppressed oppressing others, living up to the stereotypes that was placed upon the African American community simply saying that being smart is being white and playing dumb is being Black. If changes are expected to come the community withing the Black community will have to combat its own racism against each other and tear down those actions and comments that have been handed down to the community since the era of slavery. Looking at the positive side having groups that consist of all races when it comes to educating people on the gay community in and outside of the school system, will down the line prevent dropout rates and bullying within and outside of the school system. Acknowledging people of color for their accomplishments gay and straight will give both sides of the community something to be proud of educating on Gay Black History will benefit many. 
Nai'm Akbar
Never thought to look at mental illness in the Black community as important as I do now. African American males having to combat all other struggles that have been placed upon them by the oppressors and if mental illness sets in, having to combat that as well. Knowing that it is difficult for some men to seek help and even more difficult for African American men to seek help for all the oppressed feelings about himself and life in general would in a sense cause depression. Trying to understand the minds of African American men will help them to heal those scars since the days of captivity.
John Head
Hoping that important information such as this will get out and help those who need the help, the courage to seek the help. African American men feeling that "no bodyness" which eventually leads to depression is heartbreaking. Knowing that many out there feel like no body's and have accepted those negative stereotypes has a way of life. Need more support within and outside the communities because this is not just a African American problem it is a humanity problem.
Girl like me
I know this all too well, as I grew up in the 60's I do not ever recall having a African American doll, never knew they existed until my late teenage years. That is when I discovered that my dark skin made me different from all my other peers and even my sister who is of light skin and hazel colored eyes. Society has placed those thoughts in our minds as to who is smart, who is worthless and who is worthy and beautiful. The thoughts that must have been going through those children's minds while having to choose what doll they wanted to keep. I wondered though who was conducting the research and who was asking the questions. If we as young kids are so impressionable that when asked by a white researcher that question, I wonder if the kids felt that had to choose the white doll, because it would have been the acceptable thing to do. Sometimes as adults we say what other people want to hear even if we know its not morally right. We need to show our young girls of color that love is within the eyes of the beholder and that love comes from within and will shine outward and that when we accept who we are others will follow suit.

Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Week 5
Being a Man About It:Manhood Meaning Among African American Men
I believe that the meaning of what manhood comes from African American men not believing in themselves and having no hope because society has placed that influence upon them for many years.
Until that thought is broken some African American will assume that being tough and being arrested makes for some a manhood. They will have to overcome what has been handed down to them in order to work towards a new definition and meaning of manhood. Dealing with the presumptions of the oppressors and using that to further break down the unity of the African American family.
African American Women and the Male-Female relationship dilemma
To read that these myths still exist is very sad and should be a huge concern for all African American women and men. I do feel that couples of African American have so much more to deal with but on the other hand I feel that couples in general have numerous situations to overcome and can be solved through understanding and patience. We have to stop believing those negative myths and it needs to begin within the African American communities. In the days of slavery women had to assume the roles of husbands due to fact that the males were sold and or sent away to work for another owner. Women had to maintain the household and could not depend on having a male partner in the home due to no fault of their own. I suppose some women still feel the need to assume that role because of uncertainty within the family union. In the current times there is no longer slavery but the system has set it up where many outlets for African American males is a narrow opening for survival and so many find themselves in jail or prison for one reason or another and so we have the women once again taking that role of mother and father.
Limiting and Freeing Beliefs
Having to carry on those beliefs that had been handed down since before Jim Crow era, has made it even more difficult to maintain trust for oneself and no less their mate. If we are unable to control the people, places or things in our lives we let them go, which includes our significant others. Because of the faith that many African Americans hold until this day, have enhanced our ability to appreciate the positive things in life especially the love ones that are apart of our lives.
In Search of Love and Commitment
A system that tears a family apart finds fault in why the unity of African American family is not there. The myth about Black women being so strong willed is the reason why there is a low marriage rate among African Americans, we as women in general search for love with someone who is compatible with us. When you have a society who agrees with the myth that Black women are too loud, hostile and that White women are submissive and quiet is the reason why Black men marry white women is a myth that has plagued some into believing that is true. When we begin to understand why some women feel they need to be strong willed, the reason why they feel that love is not permanent and the reason they search for love outside of the community of which they live is because the oppressor has torn down the unity of the family, have torn down the pride of our African American men and have some thinking that the Black man is not worth our love and commitment to stand by each other through thick and thin and so we abandon those who need us the most. It is like everything else in life we have to change ourselves and way of thinking and everything else will fall into place. We can sit around for another century for the oppressor to change their way of thinking or we can start building up each other and starting new beginnings for the African American community.  

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

African American Families
In this article I found that the system that was and is meant to keep African American family union divided is still currently apparent. Slavery was meant to keep the families apart, by selling each member of the family to owners from different parts of the United States, without this system of slavery in place the union of the African American family would be as strong as ever even in this day and time. In order for oppression to occur one would have to keep that threat open. When the people were brought here on slave ships and coming to America, all they had was their religious beliefs and the family because everything else had been stripped from their existence. When the owners of slaves began to allow them to worship within their own comfort of the family and community, the slave owner would still have an "overseer" standing in the distance, never allowing the slaves rather freed or not out of their sight, in fear of the slaves becoming independent and becoming a strong union. Every event that comes in large numbers "Black Coalitions" are a threat to the oppressors. Until there is a change in the system beginning with the education system and political system, this will continue to effect the majority of African American families and intentionally keep the family unity apart. We as people of color have to stand by one another so that we all can prosper from what being America has to offer, we have to be willing to take that risks.
Living in a class apart
This was a really interesting article because if we have racism and prejudices within our communities and in and around our own race, how do we expect others to see us in a different light and give the respect that we deserve. Growing up in the 60's I always felt the difference between light and dark African Americans, being a darker skinned African American woman, I always wondered where we women like me in the magazines,and now so I am delighted when I see a dark skinned women in some of our popular magazines, and it makes me even more proud to be who I am. I feel we have a long way to go, to completely honest I had my own prejudices against light skinned African American women for years, there was an underlining resentment towards them. Though I do not feel that way today, I had to learn to love myself inwardly and outwardly to move past that feeling. It mentioned in the article that slave owners would sometimes put light skinned in the house and live the dark skinned slaves outside, to me that was just another for of oppression to keep the African American families down and separated. To find out that some of African American elite groups feel comfortable enough to donate to organizations such as the NAACP but feel they are too elite to socialize within the group, is a step backwards for all African Americans. One portion of the article talks about how some of the Black elites feel guilty, I feel they should not feel that way, they worked and earned what they have and we as African Americans should not make them feel guilty about what they have. As a 49 year old woman and knowing that these practices are still happening today really makes me know that is a lot of work that needs to be done within our own communities and within ourselves to make that change needed for all less fortunate.
The Impact of Welfare Reform on Black Families
It is unfortunate that people are still suffering in a welfare system that is supposed to help the family and not tear it down, is just another form of oppression. The system is supposed to give a hand up so that person can become self sufficient and independent but it seems it holds more people back, in a hole so deep that some can not seem to climb out of it. There are no proper tools to positively help those in need in the welfare system and its just a band aid that when taken off the wound has not healed. The welfare system does help some to move forward and so sometimes it may take other resources such as mentors, teachers and peers to give someone that boost to get passed that continuous need for welfare, so that it does not become generational. Making daycare affordable, changing policies in the workforce, that would have more options for parents to work day shifts with an adequate pay and be able to live without the welfare system for long periods of time. The confusing part is why would the system have a low income father pay higher proportions of their income, when it will be almost impossible to pay it and they eventually end up in jail, which is more of a cost to taxpayers. Having fathers in prison punishes the children more than anything and when these fathers are on the outside they tend to spend that time with their children, which is important for the family union. Making things affordable and reasonable can help someone get on the right track, when young African American men don't see the light at the end of the tunnel, they may give up because they feel there is no hope for a good future
The Subprime Swindle
It is absolutely said that this kind of practices are still occurring in this day and time even with all the laws in place, a greedy and self centered business person finds a way to make more money off the already oppressed people. I recall when this horrific situation occurred I had to go back and look at my mortgage documents, because I recall that when my husband and I wanted to look over the stacks of documents, the other people in the room were frowning and moving back and forth in their sits. We were fine but I wonder about all those people who got "swindled" out of their net worth and if and when they will recover from this mess. It is no different from the film we watched when they would imprison African Americans and then let them out so that they could work off their punishment whether they were innocent or not. These people caught up the subprime loans will have to work the rest of their lives and to have someone come in and sell it after their passing because the debt could never be fully paid off. When the oppressor feels threaten he will feed his children to the lions to keep what he has, nothing is worth losing his privileges that were handed down to him. So if that means keeping the poor in its place, their pockets empty and his fat, he will do what ever it takes and never look back. That's why I think it is so important that we as a people can depend on someone to step in and say "I don't think that is a good idea", looking at other avenues to make ends meet, owning businesses (banks) that will do the humanly deed and not swindle people out of their hard earned monies, that was not handed down to them, that they had to reach up and work for.
What's Love Got To Do With It?
Not sure about this, I would probably not marry if that person did not have a job or did not share in the same goals in life that I have or had. I would and have married for love and if something happened to where my husband lost his job and hit a low point in his life I would not leave him, I would stand right by his side. But I have some understanding for women who want to marry someone they feel could bring them both to the top and have a better financial and stable life for their children. I feel that we as society need to do what is possible to help our African American men advance in life, because so much has been stripped from them beginning with the slave ships leaving Africa. They have had to endure many obstacles in life and now to fall behind the women they protected would be another slap in the face. When society makes it hard for the Black man to succeed it is once again another form of oppression. Some white males fears of the Black man stepping up next to them or even replacing them, is something that some white males of this society is not going accept and let it happen. The education, court and political systems would have to make some drastic changes so that a man can feel equal in this society and we as a community of people can unite to make these changes for the benefit of all people, especially men of color.
Successful women who are childless
Women want success just like their male partners and if children are not in the plans, I do not see anything wrong with that decision. The subject of future off springs is very important but that can come in a form of mentoring, teaching and providing services to the off springs of others and everything will keep moving forward. Though spreading the wealth of success to your off springs is a great way to increase that unity of the African American family there are other forms of sharing success.
Plight Deepens for Black Men, Studies Warn
The focusing on educating Black men should be on the list of our societies tasks, we have too many of African American in prison, when they could be on the outside earning a honest living, becoming educated and contributing to the communities of which they came from or moved to. No one can be productive in a cell and not earning a living and being productive in society, it would cost less to educate men in comparison to imprisoned more than half of African American men.
Dark and Lovely, Michelle
Teaching our young girls of color to embrace who they are and that the darkness of their skin is a glorious blessing from God. Women of any color is a beautiful and wonderful blessing, so I just love embracing myself as a woman of color.
Race Wasn't an Issue to Him, Which Was an Issue to Me
It is hard for people to acknowledge wrong doings especially if it points the finger at someone whom that felt had no faults, people do not want to be mad at someone they loved and gave them what they have. If you pretend or block out awful actions, its like it never happened. It may come a time when white people can truly understand where we are coming from with this feelings of despair and feelings of oppression and we also have to come to terms that it may never happen. Either you will love that person and accept the fact that person is who he is and you are who you are and try to meet on common grounds, that it is what it is. They are many times I avoid the truth because I don't like the way it feels inside when I am let down. Some rather not have to carry that burden and some just can't handle the truth about what their ancestors created and the actions of those ancestors is currently still active.
Bring Me Home a Black Girl
I understand the feelings of wanting to pass down African American traditions to our off springs. You do feel more at ease when your family looks like you and you want to increase that unity of the African American culture. My biggest fear of my sons dating someone of another race, I guess the flash backs of what Black men endured in the 60's when it came to dating a white women. But I did not tell them who to date because they are interracial young men, I just said respect a women like you would respect your mother, grandmothers and so forth. Be with someone you can picture yourself with for many years to come through thick and thin and my son's choices have been women of color and I am happy for them. Their choices their lives, I can not pick and choose for them, though I would put my two cents in when needed. But I do understand "bringing home a Black girl" it is a way of keeping our race strong and alive and I agree to a certain extent.

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

Timeline of African American Life/Nguzo Saba Principles

In the early days and slavery era, in 1800 the first African Methodist Episcopal Church paved the way to continue to spiritual life of African Americans, to be able to praise and worship in our own way. As history has stated that when Africans were brought over to America, one of the things that had that no one could take from them was their spiritual beliefs and worshipping to a higher being. Entertainment 1821 was paved through the first black theater company in the U.S. which was founded in in New York, gave African Americans an opportunity to identify with people whom looked and sounded just like they did, knowing that could entertain in a professional manner and get compensated as well, it made African Americans proud enough to pursue their dreams as a professional in the entertainment field. In 1827 the first African American newspaper "Freedom Journal" was published giving African Americans that insight on what was going on in the African American communities and what was going on outside of the communities, it united the African Americans through written communication and being able to be represented in the newspaper among their peers.
Building Democracy 1866-1953 Era, in 1866 Congress passed the Civil Rights Act which was a huge beginning for African Americans to share in some of the rights that Whites had from birth, though those rights never equaled to what the Whites had, it was a beginning of a long battle for equal rights. African Americans did not have much to be proud of because what had been aired about the communities and their people had been negative and that we has African Americans would never achieve anything other than being someones maid or servant. But in 1893 African Americans had another person to be proud of, the first African American physician to successfully to perform open-heart surgery, this lead the path of opening avenues for African Americans to be recognized in the medical field right along side of white doctors and their peers.
Civil Rights Era 1954-1971, 1954 Board of Education paved the way for All African Americans and their children to receive an education, though the education in many African American communities is not the same quality and quantity as other school districts, it is the reason why I am able to receive a higher education as well as my children. In 1963 the march on Washington D.C. brought a sense of unity back into the black communities and a sense of pride for African American men and women. It held together that sense of belonging which had been lost along with the break down of the African American family values, that all dreams are a reality through faith and commitment.
Modern Times Era 1972- Present, in 1972 the Equal Employment Opportunity Act achieved great things for African Americans, it provided a positive path of how we could provide for our families, without the threat of not being hired because the color of our skin and assuring that African Americans could have the same opportunities in the job market like others. And finally we could be all so proud that we are a beautiful people and that our skin color just enhanced our beauty and that we could begin to love ourselves just the way we are. In 1983 Vanessa Williams became the first African American to become Miss America, and though she had fallen from that grace, she committed herself to other avenues and opened up more doors of the entertainment industry for many African American women and many African American women have entered the Miss America pageants and any other contests that once excluded people of color.
Karenga and Karenga Principles: The 2nd principle in self-determination can be related to first African American newspaper it taught how to "speaking our own special cultural truth in the world" showing strength, dignity and determination. The fifth principle can be related to 1911 National Urban League by helping many African Americans find jobs and housing, it rebuilding, developing and defending the African American community and its people.
In the Harvey article many of the principles are evident the section on cultural values and behavioral norms can be related to the frist principle "striving for and maintain unity in the family, community, nation and race", the handyman syndrome relates to the second principle because it talks about defining ourselves, name ourselves, create for ourselves and speak for ourselves. The handyman talks about how many of the men felt like failures and feeling personally responsible for not being successful but the ending results were to have the men recognize their strengths and that they are worthy and appreciate who they are and to love the color of their skin.